National Friendship Week
We all know or knew someone like this!!
One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my
class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like
he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would
anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a
nerd." I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with
my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went
on.
As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran
at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he
landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in
the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this
terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. So, I jogged
over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses I saw a
tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are
jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey
thanks!" There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles
that showed real gratitude.
I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it
turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him
before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have
never hung out with a private school kid before.
We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned
out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little
football with my friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the
more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought
the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books
again. I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some
serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and
handed me half the books.
Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were
seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on
Georgetown, and I was going to Duke.
I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be
a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business
on a football scholarship.
Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about
being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad
it wasn't me having to get up there and speak.
Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys
that really found himself during high school. He filled out and
actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all
the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of
those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I
smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He
looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and
smiled. "Thanks," he said.
As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began "Graduation
is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough
years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but
mostly your friends... I am here to tell all of you that being a
friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to
tell you a story."
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the
first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He
talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have
to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me
and gave me a little smile. "Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved
me from doing the unspeakable."
I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy
told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at
me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I
realize it's depth.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture
you can change a person's life.
For better or for worse, God puts us all in each other's lives to
impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.
"Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when
our wings have trouble remembering how to fly."